How Do I Fall Back in Love with Myself?

Falling back in love with yourself isn’t about romance—it’s about honouring who you truly are. It’s about allowing yourself to feel what you actually want, accepting that it’s okay, and then having the courage to take action.

If you’ve lost touch with that connection to yourself, know that you’re not alone. Life’s pressures, expectations, and past disappointments can dim your sense of self-worth. But just as you can reconnect with an old friend, you can rebuild your relationship with yourself—starting today.

Real Talk: Why This Matters

Loving yourself isn’t just about self-care routines or repeating social media - fuelled affirmations in the mirror.
It’s about treating yourself with the same respect and kindness you offer others.
When you do, your confidence grows, your decisions become clearer, and life feels lighter.

Here are some unconventional but powerful ways to get started.

1. Stop Asking for Permission

How often do you wait for someone to validate your decisions? Whether it’s a career move, a personal goal, or even a simple desire like taking a day off—waiting for approval weakens your trust in yourself.

Try this: For the next 24 hours, make every decision based on what you truly want without explaining yourself. Feel the freedom of standing by your own choices.

2. Unsubscribe from One Obligation Today

Overcommitment drains self-love. Saying yes to everything leaves little space for you. Chances are, there’s something in your calendar that you agreed to out of guilt or obligation rather than genuine interest.

Try this: Find one commitment—big or small—that doesn’t serve you and politely step away. Your time is yours to reclaim.

3. Treat Yourself Like Someone You Deeply Respect

We often extend more patience and understanding to strangers than we do to ourselves. If a friend felt lost, you’d encourage them, not criticise them. If they failed, you’d remind them of their strengths.

Try this: Speak to yourself the way you would speak to a respected mentor or close friend. Before judging yourself harshly, pause and reframe your thoughts with kindness.

4. Write a List of Everything You’ve Survived

Your struggles have shaped you. Instead of focusing on what you haven’t achieved, recognise what you have overcome. This instantly shifts your perspective and reminds you of your resilience.

Try this: Spend 10 minutes listing everything—from childhood challenges to recent obstacles—that you’ve made it through. Then read it back and appreciate your own strength.

5. Give Yourself Permission to Want More

Somewhere along the way, you might have convinced yourself that wanting more—whether it’s success, joy, or peace—is selfish. It’s not. It’s natural.

Try this: Write down three things you truly want without filtering them. No justifications, no “but I should be grateful.” Just pure, honest desire. Then, ask yourself: What’s one small action I can take today to move towards this?

You Don’t Have to Do This Alone

Rebuilding your relationship with yourself takes time, and sometimes, an outside perspective helps. At Sustainable Life Coach, our One-to-One Coaching Plans help you uncover what you truly want, break past limiting beliefs, and take real steps towards a life you love.

If you’re ready to feel like you again, let’s talk. Book a free consultation today: www.sustainablelifecoach.co.uk

Falling back in love with yourself starts with small but powerful choices.
Honour who you are.
Trust what you want.
And most importantly—know that you are enough, exactly as you are.